Aug
23
Guys - How do I bring back the attraction after having sex? He says he doesn’t feel our chemistry?
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My boyfriend of a few months hasn’t been the same with me ever since we had sex (a month into our dating) I could tell that he still cares for me.. but I also can tell he doesn’t feel the physical chemistry. I try to do all of that with him, be spontaneous, creative and try to dress nice. But he says he still doesn’t feel it (even tho we do have sex).
Have other guys experienced this?
Unfortunately I think we had sex too soon - way before his feelings turned into love. I don’t know what to do b/c I don’t want to lose him. He’s drawn to my intellect, common interests and we talk well together.
How can I make him attracted to me again? Thanks.
By: two_design_kitties
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yeah thats because he only wanted you for sex. nothing more. there is nothing you can do about it
make it noticeable ur really trying..and dress hot!
role playing
maybe drink a lot of wine before making love
try those
sorry girl some guys just use pretty girls such as yourself just to get laid on the behave of the male race let me say I’m sorry that he took advantage of you
he was just being nice till he got sex.now he got it so he does not want you anymore. sorry there is nothing you can do. the more you try the more he will be turned off. think how you would feel if you did not like someone and they tried and tried.. you would be even more urned off. dump his sorry A.S.S.
why should you live your life trying to find out what pleases him? he’s not your husband, he doesn’t provide for you, he didn’t take any vows with you, he din’t commit to anything, why are you throwing yourself at his feet? find some pride in yourself, MABEY that would work.
As a guy, I’ve been in similar cases with a girl. The girl herself is just awesome. Awesome personality, sense of humor, intelligent..the works. However if the sex isn’t very good, I would definitely be pretty bummed out afterwards. I wasn’t mad, I was just bummed. I’m in no way attacking your sexual skills, but maybe try asking him what he likes and what turns him on. What may drive one guy wild, may bore the guy you’re with now. I’ve had some great sex, and some pretty terrible sex in my day. The only difference between them is communication. Just talk about it. You can even make talking about it an erotic way to lead into the sex.
If he likes you for you, he’s not just using you for sex. There’s probably just something missing. If you get along and really enjoy each other, I’m sure you’ll be able to work it out
Sorry Sweetie, I know it’s a cliche’ now, but…he’s just not that into you. You are young….move on so you can find the wonderful person you are supposed to be with. Don’t stay with some one just for familiarity convinience..you are wasting precious time. Love should be electric mutual. The right person will love you the way you are and you will know they love you because you won’t have the feeling that you need to morph into something fake to get thier attention. Make the first move!! Tell him you wish him well happy future but you just don’t think you two are a romantic match. He may be hanging around for convenience until he finds someone else, and when that happens he’ll leave, and blame you in some way so he doesn’t have to feel like the bad guy.
This’ll be difficult, but limit interaction. If he’s really attracted to you beyond sex, then DON’T give him THOSE things.
This serves as a possibly painful lesson. One, as a result, if his feelings beyond physical attraction are sincere, he’ll realize the value of the relationship with you and that chemistry will be rekindled.
Two, if it doesn’t turn out that way, then it was only physical attraction and you’ve laid the ground work to move on.
Best of luck to you!